Showing posts with label self esteem. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self esteem. Show all posts

Wednesday, April 23, 2008

~Girls, Self Esteem, Apples & Boys~



I saw this on the internet and it really hit home with me.

Are our little girls like apples? Are we teaching them to be at the top? Do they feel worthy of love and adoration?

I am so saddened lately, about the promiscuous nature of our little girl children.

I’ve read reports about girls as young as eleven, engaging in sexual behavior. Is it because they idolize the likes of Paris Hilton, Kim Kardashian, Miley Cyrus (who has some pretty racy pictures out there, despite being only fifteen) or because their self worth depends on the attention of a boy?

Popularity is so important to teens, but, popularity at what cost? Being provocative and sexually available may be necessary for "popularity", but it will ruin the girls reputation, hurt their heart, damage their soul and ultimately CHANGE who they are and who they are meant to be.

It is important to tell our daughters, our sisters and our girlfriends how incredibly special each and everyone of them are. The man who finally wins their heart, should be as incredible and discriminatory as they are. Focus on their intelligence, their talents, special gifts~Help them love themselves so much, no one could corrupt their unique, special essence.

I think anytime a girl gives up a part of herself, in the hopes of winning the affection of a young man, and the young man “loves her and leaves her”, that part of her heart and soul erodes.

Every bit of innocence that is taken selfishly, hardens and hurts the heart.

I know we have a double standard in our society. We have forever. My mother taught me that is up to the girl to say “no”, because the boy won’t.

I’ve never raised a boy, so I don’t know what I would have taught him, with regard to this subject. I hope I would tell him to respect all girls and women, and don’t treat any female any differently than he would his own mother or sister.

Respect and revere; don’t use and abuse.

My darling father, now deceased, was a modest man. I remember my mother telling me that after having two daughters, he never looked at “sexy” girls the same. If he saw a girl behaving provocatively ( ie the Lido Review in Las Vegas, or the one time he and my mom were on a beach where some girls were topless) he would look away, rather than soak up the vision.

The reason?

My mother told me it was because all he could see in those women, was the fact that they were also daughters~ little innocent girls at one time. All he saw, was my sister and me, and perish the thought that we would be leered upon by some man.

We need our girls to value themselves, and we need our young men to appreciate and respect them for the goddesses they are. By respecting the opposite sex, the young men will become better husbands and fathers. By valuing themselves, the girls will be stronger, wiser and much more appealing. Love yourself and others will love you. Be brilliant and you will attract brilliance. A glowing spirit is anyone's best asset.

High self worth and respect makes for a better society. Tell you daughter, your sister, your friend, YOURSELF that you are worthy of all the love and respect the universe offers!

We should never sell ourselves short.

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